A Complaint: A Request in Disguise
Many times a complaint is really a request for something different in disguise. When we feel stuck, often all we know how to do is complain about the problem. Ask yourself: “What do I want to see happen?” or “How would I prefer things to be?” These questions may give you clarity in identifying what needs to be different in order for you to feel happier and more content. Then, you can put action behind your newly identified need, instead of ruminating on the problem.
Getting the Respect You Deserve
If there is a person at work who isn’t treating you with the respect and consideration you deserve, the only thing you can truly control is your reaction. Although you may not be responsible for this person’s behavior, you are responsible for how you respond. If you want things to change, ask yourself: “What am I doing to elicit this person’s behavior or to allow it to continue?” Even if you’re not doing anything, your inaction may be speaking for you. Sometimes you have to take ownership of your role and decide which steps to take in order to make change.